Depreciated Value

In the wake of Karinne Stephens and Kat Stacks, as well as seemingly more and more "jump-offs" creating buzz on the internet and via television, I often wonder about the state of the woman's most prized possession: her vagina.

Women are giving themselves away to every John, Harry, and Dick (pun intended) and do not realize the power that once laid behind a lady's womanhood. There are ladies who freely discuss their one night stands to the women who knowingly cheat with men who have girlfriends, fiancees, and even wives. Some women stay in relationships for years without serious commitments. My mother always told me that if he can get the milk for free, why pay for the cow? These women are making it easier for men to get away with cheating as well as giving them more accessibility to the "womanhood." Women that want to wait until marriage are put on the wayside for the "loose" women. Guys are beginning to realize that for every girl that wants to wait, there is another willing to hop right into bed with them. We can easily blame it on low self esteem, growing up without a father, or any other reasons we can conjur up, but the truth remains that too many girls don't understand or recognize the power of their womanhood and give it away too easily.

Historically, a woman hid and protected her valuable treasure. In slave days when a woman was forced to lie down outside of her husband's bed, she felt shame and disgrace. During the Holocaust when the Nazi army would shave the women's heads and have them undress in front of them, it was a degrading experience, but now strip clubs are common hangouts and the more you can do for a man(that may not be your husband) the better.

I heard alot of buzz about Ciara's "Ride" video recently and I can remember the same buzz, if not more, surrounding Nelly's "Tip Drill" video. Culture and media have made it easy to accept putting your womanhood out there without shame or a ring, but at what point will individual women say, "I deserve more and expect more." Being someone's friend that you only see when he wants "the goods" should not be acceptable. But because women fall victim to wanting a man around, they continue to give it up in hopes of getting something later-maybe a new purse, car note paid, or a date at an expensive restaurant. There are those who hope to eventually get a ring, but if the goods are given up to early, the likelihood decreases because you are seen as "loose", "fast" or "hot-under-in-the-pants" like my grandmothers would say.

Some of my own experiences of seeing women (or girls actually) take pictures of their womanhood and send it across the internet or the newest backlashing thing (ask Kim Kardashian or Kendra Wilkinson-Baskett) of releasing sex tapes for money should be a reminder to all ladies that men, especially those that are not married to you, do not always respect your womanhood as they should. I had an experience in my own (past) relationship where a young lady slept with my ex-boyfriend although she was fully aware of me. At that point, I knew the value of our womanhood was in trouble.

The Bible states that it is a sin to have sex outside of the marriage bed and we are seeing the repercussions of this: 70% of black children are born to single mothers, most single mothers live in poverty, and the rates of STDs continue to rise.

My goal is not to offend anyone, but help women realize their worth and its not a few cheap dates or drinks at the local bar. Make him work for it. If you want a committment, he needs to make a commitment before diving into your precious treasure. If you know the man is involved with someone else, don't allow him to use you for a side piece. Ladies, let your womanhood be exclusive to those deserving of it.

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